Forget what you want to tell yourselves, because, one of the reasons men “choose” to be single is so they can maintain an active sexual lifestyle with numerous partners—safely, of course—satisfying their sexual desire and having fun at the same time.
Problem is, that’s happening less frequently than you may think.
Even with the adaptation of dating and/or hookup apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc., men aren’t getting as much action as their counterparts who are committed relationships—which is probably why, according to a 2013 study from CNET, a relationship expert believes that 75 percent of single men are looking for a relationship while on dating apps.
To further support this, an article on the Urban Roar claims that only 52 percent of single men have sex more than once per month. That’s 30 percent less than men in relationships, with 82 percent of committed guys having sex more than once a month.
So, what do guys do to get their rocks off without the help from a partner or two, or three? Easy: They masturbate.
According to that same article on the Urban Roar, a 82 percent of men admit to watching porn—which may even be lower because guys are ashamed to admit that they’re not getting action and just resorting to online vids.
All that porn has, most likely, led to unrealistic expectations—as we’ve told you before—because, let’s face it, your mind becomes desensitized, ultimately leaving you to believe that, yep, two girls at once while they play doctor is realistic. It’s not, though.
Dr. Angela Gregory, psychosexual therapist at Nottingham University Hospital, said: “Men are becoming both physically and psychologically desensitized to normal sexual stimulation and arousal with a sexual partner.”
Adding to the problem of all this, uh, non-sex is the dilemma of STDs, which, smartly, have led to single people becoming smarter about who they sleep with and how often they go through different partners.
According to a Washington Post piece, in 2015, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported 1.5 million cases of chlamydia, while gonorrhea and syphilis were still experiencing double-digit percentage growth.
Lastly, while we all might think being single gives us the chance to be free spirits and have sex with whomever we want to, many single guys aren’t actually looking for that—as stated above, they’d rather have a monogamous relationship—with the Urban Roar piece suggesting that only 15 percent of them actually wish they can have sex every day.
This isn’t to say some men don’t live, breathe and desire sex more than ever, but it’s safe to say that, due to busy schedules, different priorities and becoming smarter about the dangers of so many sexual partners, single men aren’t what they used to be—and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.